It's interesting how God leads many times. I feel lead at this time (whether by God or by self I don't know) to share what the Bible teaches us about accepting responsibility for our actions. In the books of Samuel and Chronicles we learn of a shepherd boy named David who rose to power as the king of Israel. He did many great things, but had many times that he displeased the Lord, one of which was his affair with Bathsheba. Because of this sin not only was David and Bathsheba's life changed, but her husband, and their child, and David's kingdom were all affected. David appeared to have hid his sin, but a prophet came to David and the prophet explained that God knew of David's sin and that David would pay for his sin. There were consequences for those sins and with a message from God's spokesman David took responsibility for his actions and healing began. It was slow and the results of that sin were still there, but God forgave and healing began with the acceptance of fault.
You see how can you get forgiveness if you don't ask it from God? And furthermore how can you confess sin that you yourself refuse to recognise? God can't forgive the sins of the one who blames others when in fact we should be looking inwardly.
Look at the first man, Adam was given very clear instructions in genesis chapter 2. God said that Adam could eat of any tree in the garden, but one. Once God made Eve and Eve was deceived she ate of the fruit and the Bible says that Adam, who was with her, ate also. The Bible doesn't say that in ignorance Adam ate. We know that Adam knew full well what he was eating otherwise God would not have held a sin to him. Adam ate knowing what he was doing and knowing God said not to and when God asked him what he had done what did Adam say? He said, " the woman You gave me gave me the fruit and I ate". Did you hear how Adam not only blamed Eve, but he blamed God for making Eve and giving her to him. Adam should've taken notice of his sin and taken care of his wife. Instead he was a passive husband and he let his wife go it alone, then he blamed her when he was even more guilty than she was. In genesis 2 the Bible records a conversation between God and Adam. Eve was not there. She was later informed of this tree and the rule of it because she relayed it to the serpent later.
Here is point of it all. There comes a time in all our lives when we have to stop blaming others and start accepting responsibility for our own lives. We all sin and forgiveness is there for the one who will confess that sin. The Bible says that when we confess our sins to God He is faithful to forgive us and cleanse us from all our unrighteousness.
So, maybe through this message God is trying to tell you something. Maybe its time to stop, take a deep breath, and look inwardly for the cause of our hurt. Our decisions are forever and they leave a mark on everyone in our lives, but it is never to late to start again and make things right. God is the God of second chances and praise His name, we even get 3rd and 4th chances too. But in order to gain forgiveness we must first acknowledge the need for that forgiveness. How did your sin affect others? How can your repentance affect others? Only God knows and its time you found out...
That's how the Bible says it and that is how Dold sees it.
Yours in Christ,